The common notion when a guy is trying to impress a girl is that they should put their best foot forward. It’s a good move in getting a favorable first impression. But a person can’t sustain to be in their best state at all times. As a girl with her own opinion, I’d say that the best way is to just act normally and comfortably.
First, it’s not the best traits of a guy that a girl should learn to love because it’s already given that good traits are accepted and loved by everyone. And as humans, imperfect as we are, our flaws also define us and our partners should be able to accept or tolerate those, as each individual has certain preferences of what flaws they can and can’t learn to deal with.
Second, it brings about that “you’ve changed” line that is mostly heard in relationships. The thing there is that the guy changed before the relationship, trying to fit in to the girl’s picture of her dream guy, and then goes back to his natural, default self when he gets tired of pretending or when he becomes comfortable through the relationship. Guys, remember that no one asked you to be someone you’re not.
Lastly, a girl may have their so-called “ideal guy” but when they fall in love, the guy becomes its definition even if he’s in all aspects different from “that” guy. So instead of trying to be a perfect imaginary person, be an imperfect real man.
The advice here is to just be brave and true in presenting yourself as the person that you are. Good for you if the girl falls in love with you, if not however, remember that someone can and will love your flaws. Wouldn’t it feel so much better to know that you’ve been loved for both your worst and your best? Be confident of who you are! But not too much.
If all else fails with every possible girl, try asking the ladies what didn’t work out for them and you might consider actually changing for the better.
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